Many schools require specific dress codes which students should comply with. Despite that, most high schools only suggest for outfits to be at least modest.
Such a regulation, however, doesn’t specify which outfit is considered modest and which is not. Proms, on the other hand, allow teenagers to dress as they want because they mainly focus on having fun.
Claire Ettinger is a 17-year-old home-learning student who wanted to enjoy her night at the prom. She was anticipating that night for so long that she had spent great hours to find the ideal dress. At the end of the day, she settled with a shiny cocktail dress.
Claire had specifically made sure that her dress followed the fingertip rule. The other rules also suggested that gentlemen wear Coat and tie and ladies semi-formal dresses.
The Prom was themed “Twilight in Paris” and Claire and her boyfriend James Thompson were on their way to where the party took place. They were anticipating to have a great night with each other and their friends.
I Am All Dolled Up Channeling My Inner Marilyn Monroe With My Blond Hair And Red Lipstick.
Claire said, and she’s definitely right about that.
Unfortunately for them, when they arrived at the school, she was confronted by a woman named Ann Duncan saying:
Honey, The Dress Is Too Short.
Claire was quick to her response and explained that the dress complied by the rule. The reason why it seemed short was that she tall and curvy.
“Well, Make Sure It Stays Pulled Down. It’s Too Short.”
Mrs. Duncan replied after that.
To the 17-year-old teenager’s surprise, every other girl in the Ballroom was wearing more inappropriate dresses than she did.
When I Got Into The Ballroom I Laughed, Because I Was Surrounded By Girls In Much Shorter Dresses Than Me, Albeit They Were Shorter, And Therefore Stood Out Less In The Crowd, But It Was Still Frustrating.
Teenagers wearing more improperly clothes than she wasn’t her only issue. Apparently, fathers of students were sitting there for hours, admiring girls dancing in short dresses.
I Felt Violated By The Sheer Number Of Male Parents That Were Assigned To Do Nothing For Five Hours Other Than Watch Girls In Short Dresses And Heels Dance To Upbeat Music. I Think That It Is Sick And Wrong That They Assigned Them To Sit On A Balcony Above Us And Look Down On Us And Single Us Out For Our Clothes Or Dancing.
Ann Duncan then came back to her to escort her outside of the Dance-Floor because some parents were reportedly “frustrated by her dancing.
She also told me that some of the dads who were chaperoning had complained that my dancing was too provocative and that I was going to cause the young men at the prom to think impure thought.
She and her friends were not backing up, however. When her friends tried to interrupt Ann Duncan’s actions she told them that ‘it was none of their business’.
I never signed any documentation agreeing to adhere to any sort of dress code, and the dress code that was verbally communicated to me was followed to the letter.
Claire’s boyfriend, James, was certainly outraged by the situation that was taking place.
That’s fine, she wasn’t doing anything wrong but if you’re kicking her out then the group that she came with is leaving too and you’ll need to refund all of our tickets.
Lastly, Mrs. Duncan put an end in the whole scene by calling a chaperone to escort her out. Obviously, the teenager didn’t agree with her decision.
I have long legs and I was wearing a sparkly dress, I didn’t look like most of the 13-15 year old girls there, I looked like a woman. As, I am so tired of people who abuse their power to make women feel violated and ashamed. I was told that the way I dressed and moved my body was causing men to think inappropriately about me, implying that it is my responsibility to control other people’s thoughts and drives.
Because of the size of the situation, almost everyone took different sides and shaped opinions. One of them was the security guard that took Claire’s side.
I asked the security guy if my dress was compliant with the dress code and if he had noticed any inappropriateness in my behavior and he said he didn’t think I did anything to get kicked out but it wasn’t his call.
After the incident took place, Claire Ettinger took matters into social media to inform people of what happened during that night.
Mrs. Duncan, on the other hand, was trying to defend her actions.
The dress was right below her butt cheeks by the time I saw her. It was very crowded. There were 500 kids there, so to be able to even say what they were looking at would be really difficult.
Few days after the event, Claire Ettinger decided to speak out.
I was informed by more than one friend who stayed at the prom throughout the course of the evening that there was some truly dirty dancing, and that there were several couples making out and grinding on the dance floor, and yet out of a group of 500 people, only one person, (me) got thrown out for inappropriate dancing.
I think both parties could have acted a little bit different obviously but the way that it went down it was fine because people need to follow the rules.
When the lady kicked me out, they said the dads had complained about my dancing and that meant that they had to have been watching me.
This is a message to girls built like me, who can’t find jeans that fit! The girls with long legs, who are forced to prove that their dresses fit the dress code, just because they have more leg showing than most girls.
And then she continued saying:
This is a message to the women who understand that sometimes it doesn’t matter how much you pin a dress, you’re still going to have cleavage show when you bend over. Enough with the slut shaming.
I’m not responsible for some perverted 45 years old dad lusting after me because I have a sparkly dress on. And if you think I am, then maybe you’re part of the problem
She is definitely right about that. Pretty sad to see that her lovely night was ruined by some parents who couldn’t take their eyes off her and a selfish woman.